Richard Golian

1995-born. Charles University alum. Head of Performance at Mixit. 10+ years in marketing and data.

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Please speak clearly. I am lost in riddles.

Direct communication beats vague signals
Richard Golian
Richard Golian · 4 061 reads
Hi, I am Richard. On this blog, I share thoughts, personal stories, findings and what I am working on. I hope this article brings you some value.

Navigating the nuances of interpersonal interactions has never been my strong suit. Admittedly, I have improved over time. There were instances in the past when it took me a month, or even longer, to recognise that I might have misinterpreted a situation unless someone pointed it out. Nowadays, I often realise such misinterpretations within hours, giving me a chance to rectify them.

Yet, it remains an ongoing struggle for me. That is why I hold one particular human quality in high esteem.

Clear communication

To me, many commonly used signals and subtle indications feel like riddles. Therefore, I plead:

If it is a yes or no, say it. If you want something, voice it. If you hold any reservations about me, please express them. If I have acted inappropriately, let me know. Whether you wish to spend time with me or not, be direct about it. If you feel any affinity or dislike, clarify it. We are not all adept at reading between the lines; some of us genuinely need directness.

Summary

I struggle to interpret subtle social cues. Previously it took a month to recognise misunderstandings. Now, hours. A simple request: be straightforward about yes and no. Express desires clearly. Acknowledge mistakes. Not everyone reads between the lines. Some of us genuinely need directness.
Richard Golian

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